Mind your own business: A rant (AKA we don’t care how you train, so shut up about it.)

27 May

Here at the Dog Snobs, we vary in our training styles. Honestly, we don’t even discuss it in great detail, which leads us back to our title; Mind your own business. Really, we don’t care, so just shut up about it.

It comes down to this–how you train your dog is really none of our business. Harping on people who aren’t in your circle by actively seeking them out to berate is insecure and, quite frankly, obnoxious.

Too self reflective?

While we understand the passion that many people have toward dog training and behavior, what we don’t get is the shaming, harassment, and vilification of people who don’t share the same training methods. This type of behavior is most commonly found on internet forums where people can hide behind an avatar of their schnookums puppy-face while hurling insults at others. We’re also pretty sure that no one has ever been convinced to change their training styles because they were called names.* Calling someone Hitler won’t make them agree with you, it just makes you seem like a crazy person.

Congrats you found the… No I didn’t do it again. Asshole.

I bet Hitler had poopypants too. Argument made!… or lost… one of those.

We also understand that wherever you go on the internet, there are rude, ignorant people. What baffles us is that these insults are most often hurled from overzealous fingers of each training faction intent on spreading their ‘good’.

God just smote that dick on Dogster! He’s on my side! Summon the carrier pigeons!

Given how quickly and easily these conversations tend to go south, it’s amazing to us that people still devote the time they do to trafficking these training-related threads.  It’s almost as if some people enjoy fruitlessly attempting to change people’s minds that they don’t know, will never meet, and are unlikely to actually convert to a different training approach.   Seriously, imagine if they used all that passion (and time) working with their own dogs instead of picking fights on the internet.

We’re convinced they’re out there.

Also, just a general tip. The people that are giving out free advice on the internet? They generally aren’t top trainers. First Class trainers don’t have time to correct every wrong post on the internet.  They’re too busy with paying clients. So think twice before you worship a faceless avatar as the be-all end-all of dog training.

Yeah, he’s flying coach but he can totally tell you which bathroom is cleaner.

So, the moral of the story really is to just mind your business. Do your own thing.  Train your dog the way you see best fit and stop picking fights with total strangers on the internet.  Just shut up!

*Literally, we’ve seen people called pretty much every name in the book on dog forums, including the ever-so-mature “poopyhead”

In fairness, it was a public service announcement. It is apparently dangerous to be a poopyhead

10 Responses to “Mind your own business: A rant (AKA we don’t care how you train, so shut up about it.)”

  1. JT May 29, 2013 at 11:53 am #

    When they’re not hassling us on the forums, they are checking our happy snaps of our dogs for ‘whale eye’, ‘spatulate tongue’, ‘avoidance’ and other proof they are wretched abused creatures. :DDDD

    • Jessica Cargill May 30, 2013 at 8:45 pm #

      Thank you. Thank you for writing this.

      I mean, it’s great to have a moral position.

      But so do the Westboro people, and we’d really like them to shut the fuck up, too.

    • Liz B June 22, 2013 at 10:07 pm #

      Oh, yes they are. What gets me though, is I can be having a discussion with other trainers regarding a specific situation, where we’re basically brainstorming how to go about it. I think that is a GREAT use for Facebook, etc. Then someone has to jump on the thread and tell us we’re all going to hell for kicking an empty kiddie pool around the back yard (yep, I’ve been told that).

      Ah well, gotta go train.

    • ladychaunceybarkington July 16, 2013 at 7:01 pm #

      Seems kind of stupid to post pictures in a body language observation group and then bitch about it when signs of stress are observed. What is the point? Did you want validation that you can do whatever you like to your dog and they should be okay with it because you insist it’s so? “Checking our happy snaps” isn’t the same as what you did, which was looking for trouble and complain when you found it.

      • leestrates July 19, 2013 at 6:10 am #

        Good gravy, Lady puffy-poodle-fancy-whatever-pants, give it a rest and quit resembling a dog snob cliche. It ain’t attractive.

      • ladychaunceybarkington July 22, 2013 at 1:35 am #

        Just telling it like it is leestrates.

  2. OnTheGoMutts June 5, 2013 at 10:44 pm #

    I could care less about people online handing out advice- I don’t have to read it, can block it, etc. It’s the people who time and time again tell me at dog sports events why I should train this way or that or with this trainer or that one, that really drive me nuts!

    • Liz B June 22, 2013 at 10:09 pm #

      For me, this depends on the person. If it’s an old timer, I’ll at least humour him as he’s got the experience and deserves my respect. If it’s just some loudmouth flapping because that’s what she does, well then just walk away.

  3. H. Houlahan June 22, 2013 at 2:19 am #


    Thank you, I’m here all week.

    • TheDogSnobs June 22, 2013 at 9:51 pm #

      For some reason, your comments ended up in our spam folder. Fixed now, hopefully.

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